If you have been following this blog closely, you would remember me talking about a friend who has recently been diagnosed with cancer. I got to know about it late December, 2008. Even though I keep telling everyone not to give me bad news because I get affected by them easily, I guess I am glad that I was told. I understand that even his mother does not know about it. She lives overseas and he decided not to tell her yet since nobody could help him except the doctors, and his own cells.
A couple of days ago, this friend told me that there's a real risk of him being infertile (as in the inability to father a child) after going through chemotherapy and I asked him if he stored his sperm and he said he didn't.
I feel really bad about it because it didn't cross my mind before he started his chemotherapy or I would have advised him to do so. It may not even be necessary in the end but I am someone who likes to back up, check and double check.
So my friend has already started chemo in the first week of Jan, 2009, and he says that it's too late to do anything about it now. He says that if he lives through this and gets married later, he does not mind adopting children. Still, it wouldn't be the same as having children who carry one's genes, right? Anyway, there's a long road to travel for my friend. He's still spiritually very strong now and I pray for him that this will all be just like a bad dream one day.
This brings me to the question: Is there a sperm bank in Malaysia or Singapore? No one I know used such a service before and neither have I seen any advertisements of sperm banks here.
A couple of days ago, this friend told me that there's a real risk of him being infertile (as in the inability to father a child) after going through chemotherapy and I asked him if he stored his sperm and he said he didn't.
I feel really bad about it because it didn't cross my mind before he started his chemotherapy or I would have advised him to do so. It may not even be necessary in the end but I am someone who likes to back up, check and double check.
So my friend has already started chemo in the first week of Jan, 2009, and he says that it's too late to do anything about it now. He says that if he lives through this and gets married later, he does not mind adopting children. Still, it wouldn't be the same as having children who carry one's genes, right? Anyway, there's a long road to travel for my friend. He's still spiritually very strong now and I pray for him that this will all be just like a bad dream one day.
This brings me to the question: Is there a sperm bank in Malaysia or Singapore? No one I know used such a service before and neither have I seen any advertisements of sperm banks here.
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