Some of you will know that I studied up till SPM level only and did not have the opportunity to continue my tertiary education. I know that I could do better but circumstances were such back then that I had to forego my education. Thinking back, I should have continued to persevere but my parents are really different from parents of friends. Mine never placed an importance on education, strangely.
Yes, I do have my regrets but now I am already past that stage of being "sore". I don't deny that I still have a chip on my shoulder because of my lack of education. The thing is, I can put myself through studies now, but the problem is just that if I do, it will take up my time and I would not be able to support my family financially, like I have been doing since leaving school.
So today, I had lunch with my uncle and he proposed to put me through a degree course and I just need to let him know the fees and stuff. After graduation, he would help me to secure a job too. He runs his own company so that would not be a problem. He said that he's nearing seventy now and that's the least he could do for me.
It really is an extremely tempting proposition and I have been thinking hard if I should take up his offer. Yes, I could put myself through studies, like I said, but it would mean my family would not be as comfortable as they are now. If I do take up this offer, there would be less pressure for me to study and at the same time support my family financially. Living in Ipoh is not expensive but our minimum monthly expenditure is at least MRY3,000 barring any emergencies. Of course, when I start school, there would be even more expenses like books and transportation. And no, I don't plan on getting an allowance from my uncle.
I have also been thinking, it really has been years since I left school and so far, I never needed an academic qualification. By the time I get hold of a degree, it would not be easy to get a job based on paper qualification because there would be even more people with what I have and they would be younger fresh graduates. And at this point, the only option for me is Wawasan Open University.
I have been thinking if instead of a degree course, I would be better off going for a skilled course like beauty course or something that I have thought about for some time, a pet grooming course. With a new found skill, maybe I could start afresh in KL or something.
But I don't know. My uncle is really old fashioned and he wants to see a DEGREE in my name, not some certification or something like that. Should I ask him if he would support me through such a course, or should I just decline his offer and take up a skilled course by myself?
Yes, I do have my regrets but now I am already past that stage of being "sore". I don't deny that I still have a chip on my shoulder because of my lack of education. The thing is, I can put myself through studies now, but the problem is just that if I do, it will take up my time and I would not be able to support my family financially, like I have been doing since leaving school.
So today, I had lunch with my uncle and he proposed to put me through a degree course and I just need to let him know the fees and stuff. After graduation, he would help me to secure a job too. He runs his own company so that would not be a problem. He said that he's nearing seventy now and that's the least he could do for me.
It really is an extremely tempting proposition and I have been thinking hard if I should take up his offer. Yes, I could put myself through studies, like I said, but it would mean my family would not be as comfortable as they are now. If I do take up this offer, there would be less pressure for me to study and at the same time support my family financially. Living in Ipoh is not expensive but our minimum monthly expenditure is at least MRY3,000 barring any emergencies. Of course, when I start school, there would be even more expenses like books and transportation. And no, I don't plan on getting an allowance from my uncle.
I have also been thinking, it really has been years since I left school and so far, I never needed an academic qualification. By the time I get hold of a degree, it would not be easy to get a job based on paper qualification because there would be even more people with what I have and they would be younger fresh graduates. And at this point, the only option for me is Wawasan Open University.
I have been thinking if instead of a degree course, I would be better off going for a skilled course like beauty course or something that I have thought about for some time, a pet grooming course. With a new found skill, maybe I could start afresh in KL or something.
But I don't know. My uncle is really old fashioned and he wants to see a DEGREE in my name, not some certification or something like that. Should I ask him if he would support me through such a course, or should I just decline his offer and take up a skilled course by myself?
14 comments:
Get your degree. And see if you can loan some $ as part of your family's living expenses for a period of time.
After all, uncle will want you to work for him. Most likely he wishes to have someone trustworthy to be in his company.
It'll be tough to juggle between your education and your financial commitments, but i'm sure you've been through tougher times than this.
But if you can pull this off, i'm quite sure you'll reach different heights in your life.
Ahhh Eibla... thanks for your input! I'm still thinking but I don't want to be indebted.
I think that if I depend on myself only, success will be all the more sweeter, right?
Definitely. :)
Imagine, you will be become one with skills + academics.
Why let such chance to slip away? Maybe you need to stop watching HK dramas for it.. hahaha
LOL Dramas & movies are currently my only form of entertainment. If I were to go back to school, I would rather take an MBA course. My friend says I can, just that right now, I would not be able to qualify because I do not have 5 - 10 years of managerial experience.
Hmm.. try it out and see if you can make it for MBA. Sometimes i find it irrelevant to qualify a person based on years of working experience, rather than what he/she had achieved in their career.
Who knows, whatever you've achieved in 2 to 3 yrs time qualifies you for what you want. :)
My friends who hold MBA all tell me that the piece of paper is just to make them appear more educated. That's all.
Well, I don't know. Maybe with Form 5 only, that would spur me to double my efforts. I KNOW I feel as if I have to put in more work/time compared to my friends who have tertiary education.
All these papers, depending on their course syllabus, serve as a foundation of what you wish to achieve in your career.
To those that treat it only a paper, the growth of their skills + knowledge will be slower compared to global growth.
You in the other hand, rely on your own observation and analysis. Probably might require more effort compared to others in the beginning. But i would believe, you are a faster learner and more adaptive towards situation than them as you've done pretty well for yourself all these years.
Everyone has advantages in life. The question is, how are we going to move further with these advantages we have. :)
Thanks Eibla, you're always so supportive and constructive in your comments. I really need to take a moment; stop for awhile and give my future a thought and see what direction I would like to take.
Maybe I should just get married and "retire". Hahaha!!
Hahaha..never ever depend on a guy in marriage. Get him to pay for everything you need, but never give up your income.
Eibla, that's the wisest thing to do but guys nowadays would want to share everything equally, including expenses.
Didn't we ask for equal rights in the first place? hahaha!
LOL.. i'm a guy btw..
It just doesn't seem right to have to submit to a guy due to financial dependencies. Life is more than just that. :)
Eibla,
I know you're a guy from your comments. No misunderstanding there!
The way you used the word "submit", it's kind of odd. I have not heard or read it in this context for the longest time.
Anyway, even though I champion women's rights, I think a guy should be able to provide for his wife and family. And allowing him to do so would boost his self-confidence.
Hmm.. i've always wanted things to be shared equally in life, with the other half.
But whenever girl friends seek advise from me, i'll tell them to look for a guy who is financially stable and able. LOL...
Ok.. i better stop here before i turn the comment section into irc..
Take care. :)
I'd look for a guy who pleases my eyes first. :) :) :)
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