I wondered before how people can keep the icing going after ten or twenty years in a relationship. Some people already get itchy by the seventh year, though. Unfortunately, most people stick together just for the sake of the children, for society, to avoid gossips behind their backs or some other excuses.

It is human behaviour that once a biased opinion is formed, even when that person did no wrong, you will keep picking on him/her and no matter what he/she does, nothing is right in your eyes.

Sometimes I wonder, can two people from two really different backgrounds, upbringing and lifestyle live happily ever after? What happens when the novelty factor has worn off?

What has at first looked cute to you may not be anymore; perhaps you will even be irritated by the same cute-ness.

Can an introvert form a lasting loving relationship with an extrovert? A bookworm with an illiterate? An outdoors person with an indoor princess?

One may say that love is blind or opposites attract but how true is that? One may say that each person exposes the partner to his lifestyle and enriches her life with something that she has never experienced. But how far can this go when there is no similar interest to unite two parties?

Can two people who are not able to communicate verbally be in love? When one can connect with the mind only can the bodies be joined in union. Of course guys will scoff at this idea. But it's true. Once looks fade, people tend to look for what's in the mind instead. That's where conversation and communication play that vital role in keeping the flame going.

I once read about a French man who married a Chinese lady. The French could only speak French and the Chinese could only speak Mandarin. They got married and they hardly spoke to each other. I was not able to track how this relationship went as the man died soon after the marriage.

A friend of mine has an English-speaking only father while his mom did not know English at all. Both could hardly communication but they had seven children. According to this friend, sometimes it is better not to be able to communication verbally. The less is said, the less misunderstanding and the less arguments. Hence, everyone is happy. I too could not see how well such a union progress as the wife died a few years later and the man remarried, this time to a lady who could speak English.

Yeah, I think too much, right?

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