I can truly appreciate how difficult it is to trust a partner when one is in a relationship. You know, a couple of hours ago, a guy friend told me that he cheated on his girlfriend by sleeping with his ex-girlfriend on his birthday. Prior to that, he told me that this ex-girlfriend will celebrate his birthday with him and he can't let the girlfriend know because she is a jealous pot. And now, with this outcome, I think she really has a reason to be jealous and suspicious!
And then just now, another male friend told me that he had a heated argument with his girlfriend because he did not trust the girlfriend and the girlfriend got seriously mad at him because she says that she did not do anything wrong and my friend says that it's instinct. We all know that a guy's instinct is not as strong as a woman's and in this case, according to my friend, he screwed up.
Trust is really fragile. Even if you may be with someone and think that you know that person well enough, once it is lost, it is most difficult to recapture it. It’s like a word that is already spoken. The girlfriend of my first friend doesn’t know about his extra-curricular activity, but if and when she finds out, I think she will leave too, unless she closes an eye, or two, since this guy is filthy rich.
Makes me glad that I am not in a relationship or I will face this same sh!t too.
And then just now, another male friend told me that he had a heated argument with his girlfriend because he did not trust the girlfriend and the girlfriend got seriously mad at him because she says that she did not do anything wrong and my friend says that it's instinct. We all know that a guy's instinct is not as strong as a woman's and in this case, according to my friend, he screwed up.
Trust is really fragile. Even if you may be with someone and think that you know that person well enough, once it is lost, it is most difficult to recapture it. It’s like a word that is already spoken. The girlfriend of my first friend doesn’t know about his extra-curricular activity, but if and when she finds out, I think she will leave too, unless she closes an eye, or two, since this guy is filthy rich.
Makes me glad that I am not in a relationship or I will face this same sh!t too.
3 comments:
Trust is all about security. How secure you can be either emotionally, physically or financially. For the most part, the levels of what security we want depends on the environment and the maturity we're in.
It's why younger women tend to rely on physical and financial security more than older woman tend to need more emotional security. It's all about the balance of that.
I'm just glad that I don't have that problem in my relationship. Trust is an issue I don't have to contend with.
The best thing is..........open relationship. No need to worry about "cheating" and the sex is great.
:)
this is about ego. if you can control it, you can avoid your relationship from being fragile.
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