I remember a few years ago, I asked a friend of mine, who is married, older and wiser, if it is possible for two people, a man and a woman, both single, to be good friends. He said no. The only good friend that one can find in the opposite gender is in the wife or husband.
According to my friend, when both are single, one would probably realise that he/she wants more than friendship and the friendship will turn bad when the cards are revealed and the feelings are not reciprocated.
You know, as a single woman and living this cycle time and again, it really hurts me badly. It is unfortunate that I am unable to give some people what they want from me while I only am seeking friendship from these people who could make me laugh, cheer me up and hear my grouses. If circumstances were different or if certain issues are NOT issues at all, then I could probably give it a go but when something like this happens that I have to give up that friendship, it kills me every time.
Henry is probably right when he says that it is not possible but no man is an island and we were born to seek companionship. It is only when one of us crosses the line from good friends to something more that we end up hurting each other because it is not possible.
I am just so sad right now. I wonder how long it will take me to recover this time :-(
According to my friend, when both are single, one would probably realise that he/she wants more than friendship and the friendship will turn bad when the cards are revealed and the feelings are not reciprocated.
You know, as a single woman and living this cycle time and again, it really hurts me badly. It is unfortunate that I am unable to give some people what they want from me while I only am seeking friendship from these people who could make me laugh, cheer me up and hear my grouses. If circumstances were different or if certain issues are NOT issues at all, then I could probably give it a go but when something like this happens that I have to give up that friendship, it kills me every time.
Henry is probably right when he says that it is not possible but no man is an island and we were born to seek companionship. It is only when one of us crosses the line from good friends to something more that we end up hurting each other because it is not possible.
I am just so sad right now. I wonder how long it will take me to recover this time :-(
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